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But...

My life has not forged this path!

It resembles something more like, lost myself from 18-24, lost myself but maybe just a little bit less 24-30, found purpose through unconsciously manifesting a wonderful kid and job as a mum at 30-38, 37-39 discoverd a somewhat healthy relationship with a man was actually possible and built a home on a skeleton budget...and here I am 40, still in the throws of life, love meaning and purpose, still a work in progress.

And sometimes...

I'm rather peachy and content!

And sometimes. I'm not. 

However, I'm quite ok to absorb this soupful journey, of single motherhood, work, passion projects...now choosing to embrace and make the most of it, and let go of what holds me back.....dreams, challenges, goals and all:)

Sure, ruminating over what it might be like to be in that comfortable 4 person household with time for the gym, a kitchen galley, massages on weekends, feels undeniably cozy.

But I wouldn’t change where I'm perched for winnie the poo and his honey pot! 

As sweet as all that sounds I’m immensely grateful to be where I am today....:)

Hey! My name is Steph (AKA inspired by life creative bee, nature marinator, dance and music lover, shuffle wannabee for purely boredom and movement purposes, and imperfect house decorator)....I'm based in Perth W.A and I’m super glad you found me😊!

I guess I'd say (without it sounding like a friday night tinder pitch) I'm a well earthed (yes that is a non material spiritual confession) dedicated 40 year old solo Mum to an amazing 9 year old kid.

I’m a foodie who’s never been married (only to my plate…think soulfood, greens and dark chocolate)… 

I’ve practiced yoga clumsily from home 15 years.....

I’m not an heiress to any marital gains, I don't follow rules very well.....and in the car I sing, and podcast. Anything from 80’s pop to progressive house, to Jay Shetty or Joe Dispenza (my son thinks I’m a little weird) and I’ve recently been learning how to navigate things like letting go, embracing the newer multi faceted ways of relating to myself and all thats part of me, like motherhood, dealing with reality, he emotional self  and believing in a different aligned future.

Also...

I love the challenge of being creative and finding purpose (this blog is my first project…I'm saying yes to me!!). 

Plus all the usual coffee table stuff like I work a 9-5, I’d love a yellow brick road full of time, I’m working towards financial independence, got great friends and family and my first sober relationship was at 38….pretty late I know... (maybe that was not so usual, but these days, I think most things that are seemingly unusual are actually usual…how unusual is that?!

And....

Yes I'm slightly and ADHD.....but I actually think now it's just a positive part of my brain trying to enjoy life more with all the nuances it has to offer.

So really, The question begs…

Do we need extra mozzarella on tonight’s pizza?

That just goes without saying, but really…

Why this blog?

I’ve found myself with bottomless cups of green beet juice and awkward explanations to friends and family about the creative meaningful path (to which I do get encouraged but I wonder sometimes if they think I’m nuts) asking this very question….

But, it’s like this.

I want to, (for meaningful, authentic, non wishy washy, avoiding the mundane reasons) share my experiences on single motherhood and this gift we have that is mum life..

I was going to write a big shpiel on my dedication to being a single parent, and try shine a light to consistently inspire with rainbows and daisies...like it's all about finding happiness, unlimited self care routines, and living off the healthiest pizza I can find daily. 

But the truth is, after all the back and forths, and the desire to escape the reality of perseverance, committment and work that being a single mum and human requires I've realised that we all have a past, a story to share, a dream to create...and a job to do.

And...

Everone has their pain. 

And...

Every Mum, has their wishes 

And...

Mums (and the us all) deserve to shine...at least sometimes! 

For me the heart of it all is that no matter the backstory, forward story, dream story, we are Mums, and I believe we are here to expand, learn, grow and evolve.

Personally speaking, I would never have thought that earthing a well balanced child on my own and breaking through some barriers personally like building my first home...(yes we ate cheesy potato frittatas and cornflakes for weeks), and launching this blog to have a voice for change and inspiration for other single mums would open my heart to vision perspective and growth like it has and will.

So firstly to you, my dear mum reader.

You must know wholeheartedly that you are enough, and secondly your kids will always love you….regardless of the multitudes of frozen bolognese meals, regretful shouting, forgotten canteen money and mess that flows like a torrential downpour every afternoon!

And I want you my Mum reader to know that single motherhood, is not an identity we live by, it's not house chores, finance struggles, lonely nights wondering 'if only things were this way,' it’s about realising that we have opportunities like everyone else and we create all we have.

And truthfully, sometimes that won't be bells and whistles, and we will envy our ex's, and we will have $7 left at the end of the month...but none of it defines you. It doesn't define your future nor does it mean you are less then, less capable or less of a Mum:)

I was raised by a loving single mum, for the good part of 13 years and she's a strong wonderful woman...

So here I am, taking a leaf out of her book....(perched in my new house tree...yippee!) realising it's been a huge part of the majority of my life and I have to say...sometimes I just want to escape, sometimes I just want to write, sometimes I just want to dream, sometimes I just want to dance, sometimes I have to remind myself I don't want to shout but I do, and sometimes I just want...(ok I'll leave it there)....let's just say a quiet forfilling glass of prosecco shall we?

It’s also easy to buy into our own unconscious bias and story of what I call 'single mum situational victimhood.’ 

We feel burnt out, underappreciated and desire more inner peace, better relationships, and money and time for ourselves, so we make the meaning lack...

But the truth is underneath all the acknowledgement and difficult feelings, emotional pain of burnout, loneliness and feeling time poor lies an opportunity to move the needle forward in how we relate to what’s happening within ourselves and for our kids, it's not always about money and more. It's sometimes about patience and acceptance. 

Just as valuable.

I am also aware that some mums have radically different scenarios going on in the background, some can be serious and extremely challenging, which require professional and community support, but what I wish to gift to Mums though this blog is a voice that wholeheartedly knows that you can do more with your situation than you think.

There are positive ways forward and some are just for you...yes we're not just here to be Mum's!

...and the kids, well, really….they need a handful of things….love, some of our time, good food, shelter, and community.

Not to de-value all the fun things, inspiration, outings, toys, movies…it’s just that I think when we can simplify and teach them appreciation it fills their inner cup too 😊😊

So from all this meaningful stuff I’ve just written, what can you be inspired by from this blog?

Well you won’t find anything written by me that’s AI, (with the exception of structural ideas, facts and shit I just can't think of or don't know) as I TRULY enjoying this writing from the heart process... and all the authentic, vulnerable real stuff we all need in this cyber world of 'who the "F"' is telling their true story!

I’m also not one of those super organised picture perfect Mum types, I don’t have a different parenting strategy for all the days, and I’d rather share a quick and easy chicken salad recipe, or get me out of my victim rut spotify playlist than my latest outfit…

And as for checklists, well I’m embarking on a journey towards being more organised so head over to my products page for plenty of downloadable freebies.

I have an abundance of insights into staying healthy, managing stress, getting motivated, managing tough emotions, being happier, cultivating creativity, and most importantly staying true and finding alignment as I grow my blog and e-comm brand Embodii Activewear.

Plus one extra special feature every month from an expert on wellbeing (PHD, sports science qualified and all)...look out for this in latest blog posts...she's a special lady and she's my Mum, young looking and a wonderful example for us all:)

So from the truest part of me to you I hope you can find non perfect relatable everyday stuff that inpsires you, and warms your heart to better, happy, more soulful, healthy, crazy, quiet, whatever days you need. 

Because as human nature knows it we deserve it Mum’s, we’re raising the next generation and we are better together:)


Keep rising!


Steph X