Or maybe you've found this blog post because that lonely feeling has grabbed you like a breakfast Mc-muffin after a night out with the girls. In which case, hold up…give me one too!

A - Because hangovers are a great excuse for breakfast muffins...

and...

B - I too get that all encumbering lonely feeling….


According to Discovery ABA recent studies: Approximately 33% of the global population reports experiencing loneliness with 45% of adults globally reporting increased loneliness since the pandemic's onset.

And..

In November 2023, the World Health Organization declared loneliness a "global public health concern" and launched an international commission to study the problem.

Yes, this is a factual side dish of misery…

Throw in technology, comparison, single motherhood and isolation, you’ve got your-self the main meal…one we actually didn’t want.

So forget the main meal and how can we be less lonely?

For me, I experience loneliness the most when I’m daydreaming over relationship desires, that inner talk says “you haven’t got a partner, you are alone!”

For others, having little family support or friends, and/or constant Mum demands that are less forgiving towards adult time can also be a 'lonely feeling' catalyst.

What’s really important to know is that our feelings are like guide posts and when it's about loneliness, and you may find yourself with internal dialogue that resembles something like....."give me love and human connection please, this single mum life shit is hard!"

And what many of us forget to remind ourselves of is that it takes time to develop new ways of coping and dealing with our emotions, so it’s ok if it doesn’t change overnight and it’s also ok to reach out and get help, but we must practice patience with ourselves and the journey!

My own loneliness feeling has taught me to embody 2 approaches and have become fundamentals to healing to dealing with my thoughts and loneliness...

I can honestly say...I feel a darn sight less lonely these days....and I'm still single...haha!

1. Offering myself love and compassion - For every lonely thought I experience I recognize, allow, investigate and nurture! And remember I’m human, it’s not always about single motherhood, it’s part of the multi layered dance of emotional adulthood and life experiences, and everything we are faced with in todays world.

2. Creating more human connection - that really brings me joy and and meaning. I’m not talking about just facebook groups and hobby groups (whilst I'm not dismissing them), I'm talking about quality human connection and good relationships they are a fundamental to our souls happiness. So deeper friendships, more loving conversations with family, and community experiences and connections.

Also, just for some even more raw truths…we may in our lives simply never not feel a little lonely! 

Sure, it’s also very possible to cut the puppet strings and move on with life’s plan...but no one's saying go hard or go home...

So perhaps cutting ourselves some slack is also a good place to start eh? (Pardon the pun..)

I mean if I’m sitting at home on a Friday night doom scrolling, then I’m more likely to give myself a kick up my proverbial behind to put the phone away…

But with compassion I say.....compassion is a great place to start along side my top 5 tips for dealing with loneliness as a single mum - aka - my best tips to decrease your loneliness and increase your ‘love and human connection meter’ for positive change.

kEEP RISING MUMMA BEAR! xx